Lovable with Love Handles
I am 115 pounds and I have love handles. An unlikely combination, I know, but it is the thing that has plagued me the most about my body. I find myself in the gym working tirelessly to “get rid” of them. But guess what, they laugh all the way home from the gym. I covet bodies without love handles- and it is a problem.
Recently, I was on vacation with my boyfriend’s family in Michigan. Sure enough, every day I fretted over my love handles. I had this little voice in my head saying horrible things like,
“You aren’t as skinny as you were last summer and everyone will notice.”
“Don’t take or be in any bikini pictures.”
Every time we would stop at the sand bar, I found myself annoying my boyfriend with questions like, “Does my body look like hers? What about hers?” Finally, he said, ” STOP-SHUT UP!! You are beautiful and you don’t need to compare yourself to others in order to validate that.”
He was and is right (don’t tell him that!!). I am never going to be like the models in magazines or the tiny, love handle-less girls at the sandbar. But it’s okay, because they can never be me either. It’s a waste of time and energy to focus on the things you don’t have. More importantly, you forget about the things you do have. I’ll admit, it is a struggle every day to not compare myself to someone else, but I have to remind myself- I am beautiful, strong, and worth loving- love handles and all!
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How do you define yourself?
I ask myself this question a lot! Too often, I let the opinions of other people have a large influence on what I think about myself, more than I should.
“You’ve put on weight”
“Do you eat?”
“You have the chest of a 12 year old boy”
“You are so dumb”
“I can’t believe you failed that, it was so easy”
“I can’t believe you did better than me on that test”
“You have a big nose”
“You sound dumb when you say that”
…. And this only covers the bear minimum. Time and time again, I let these things get under my skin and eat at my self-view. I believe these things far too easily, probably because these are insecurities I see within myself. How can I ever be the best version of me when I cannot see past everyone else’s version of me? I can’t. So clearly there is only one option- stop believing the lies. You don’t have to let what they say dictate what you think of yourself. You don’t have to let your doubt and insecurities run your life. You have that power to not believe and you cannot forget that the most important opinion of you is what you think of yourself. Do what makes you happy, live with no regrets, don’t let other people dictate your happiness, don’t let your insecurities hold you back, and always remember you are worth loving no matter what anyone says. If you can love yourself, then you can love others, and spread the message.
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“remind yourself of the beauty the future holds and the beauty within yourself”
Minty Fresh Future
Mint is a must have color this spring! Jeans, shoes, shirts! It’s everywhere! Personally, I love it, not only for the cutesy vibe it gives off, but also for the meaning it has to me. When I see the color mint I think- fresh, clean, & beautiful. It isn’t over powering, but instead subtle, calm, and pretty. Much like my future- fresh, clean, and beautiful. I have all the opportunity in the world and my mistakes aren’t holding me back or overpowering me. It took me a while to realize that the place I am right now is exactly where I need to be. My past mistakes, failures, and issues have built me into the person I am today. I know that I have a clean, fresh, beautiful future ahead of me- no matter what mess I have made in the past. So instead of grabbing a pair of regular jean shorts this summer, grab a mint pair and remind yourself of the beauty the future holds and the beauty within yourself. And of course, never forget that you are So Worth Loving :)
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if you didn’t smile yesterday. smile today.
you are not perfect and that is ok- no one is perfect.
girl you be pretty.. trust me!