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Revolution

It’s been an interesting couple of months for me. I’ve learned a lot, and I’m still learning, but one of the most important things I’ve learned is that I really want to spend my time with people who not just tolerate me, but instead, they celebrate me. I don’t know about you, but I’ve had my fair share of friends who put me down, and make me feel small. I’ve had friends tell me to “suck it up,” and to “just accept it,” when I came to them with what seemed like very real problems to me. I once had a friend put me down when I was feeling proud of myself for making positive changes. But then I got a job with some truly amazing people. Where I am now, I am not tolerated - I am celebrated.

I am loved for the things that I am, and even the things that I am not. I’ve decided to spend more of my time with people who appreciate all of the aspects of me, even the aspects that need (a lot of) work.

I’m also learning that I’m allowed to feel the way(s) that I feel, no matter how contradicting it may seem. In times of big change, it’s hard to trust how you feel because it’s such a complete paradox. I’m lazy, yet I’m motivated. I feel strong, yet I feel vulnerable. I am small, but I am so very big. I am loud, but I also speak in a whisper. I am a giant, however I’m still just a person. And sometimes you wonder, how can I be both happy and sad at the same time?

But I’ve realized something, and I’ve been calling it 'humanity'. We are human. In the best, most interesting ways possible. We have the ability to feel multiple, contradicting feelings all at the same time. And THAT is what makes us who we are. We all have our stories inside of us, the pieces to the puzzle that makes us who we are. I am completely allowed to feel the way that I feel, and everything that I feel is completely valid. It is my truth.

With every new day comes new lessons, and I’m learning that I should not apologize so much. This is a really hard concept for me to implement, I’ve spent my whole life apologizing. Apologizing for my feelings, my thoughts, my opinions and basically my presence in the world.

Which, when you think about it, doesn’t promote self worth.

I’ve been making myself smaller to fit into these pegs for the world, for society, for my peers. I’ve been coerced into apologizing when I knew that I was right, and I’ve been guilted into apologizing for my feelings when they were completely logical and valid. 

I see now, though, that apologizing for feeling something is, in a way, diverting ownership. It’s saying, "I only feel this way if you’re okay with it." This type of mentality does not promote confidence in ones self or personal ownership of feelings.  And I should own my feelings, opinions, and thoughts. Stand up for them, and myself in the process. I’ve bitten my tongue far too many times in the past couple of years, to simply “keep the peace” and to not “rock the boat.” But I think that I do want to rock the boat. My opinions matter, and it matters to me whether or not I express myself.

Keeping quiet about the things that matter to you does no good. No good can come from keeping your mouth shut. Silence is basically the same thing as consent, or compliance. I don’t want to wake up one day and realize that I never said anything worth actually saying.

I don’t want to be a bystander. I don’t want to be the person who stands on the sidelines and says, “Oh, I’m sure someone else will say something.” Maybe I am the someone who needs to say something. I feel like I am.

  • Please do not surround yourselves with people who make you feel like you’re not allowed to feel the way that you feel. Don’t let people around you belittle your accomplishments, no matter how small they may be.

If you’re proud of yourself for getting out of bed this morning, you BE proud of that! Surround yourself with people who celebrate you! If you’re feeling good about yourself today, take a selfie, tell a friend, write about it! Own your feelings, your opinions, your morals. Hold them close to your heart and learn to stand up and say something when you’re not okay with it. Eventually people will start to stand with you, and we could very well have a self love revolution on our hands.

Written and loved on by- Tara Jean

The Spring cleaning season must be upon us! I’m not sure what struck me but I have been working down in the basement a lot lately cleaning and trying to figure out what exactly we all have. Would you believe there are still pieces of my childhood down there? Toys even! While some of the things are worth keeping, the majority of it needs to go. Most of the things down there never see the light of day anymore. They have served their purpose and are only cluttering up the basement. 
Spring cleaning is great for our homes but it can also refresh our ways of thinking and how we see and treat ourselves. Have you ever taken inventory on yourself and the pieces of your life that do not need to be there? Now’s the perfect time if you haven’t! Bring on the Spring Cleaning: Personal Mode.
Maybe you have things in your life that have yet to see the light of day- the things that eat away at you every single day inside but are never able to make it past your mouth. The secrets. Maybe there are certain attitudes you carry around that could use a little (or a lot of) tweaking. Maybe feelings such as unworthiness, shame, and worthlessness are constantly on your mind. Bad habits? Unhealthy relationships? Insecurities? This list could go on and on… whether it’s filled with serious things that need to change or more simple things to work on over time. Whatever it is, I would encourage you to get at it, get inside your heart and mind, and clean it out! Sometimes the things we let ourselves believe and do can be so poisonous to us. There is no reason why we should be letting ourselves live in that poison and destroy our quality of life. 
I know I have a lot of time that needs to be spent in the Personal Mode of spring cleaning this season and I hope that you will spend some time there as well. Personally, I know I can’t wait to let go of some of my poison and get it out of my life! It’s not going to be easy, but it will definitely be worth it.
Happy Spring everyone!

@ROSIEHANKE
POST BY ROSIE HANKE

The Spring cleaning season must be upon us! I’m not sure what struck me but I have been working down in the basement a lot lately cleaning and trying to figure out what exactly we all have. Would you believe there are still pieces of my childhood down there? Toys even! While some of the things are worth keeping, the majority of it needs to go. Most of the things down there never see the light of day anymore. They have served their purpose and are only cluttering up the basement.

Spring cleaning is great for our homes but it can also refresh our ways of thinking and how we see and treat ourselves. Have you ever taken inventory on yourself and the pieces of your life that do not need to be there? Now’s the perfect time if you haven’t! Bring on the Spring Cleaning: Personal Mode.

Maybe you have things in your life that have yet to see the light of day- the things that eat away at you every single day inside but are never able to make it past your mouth. The secrets. Maybe there are certain attitudes you carry around that could use a little (or a lot of) tweaking. Maybe feelings such as unworthiness, shame, and worthlessness are constantly on your mind. Bad habits? Unhealthy relationships? Insecurities? This list could go on and on… whether it’s filled with serious things that need to change or more simple things to work on over time. Whatever it is, I would encourage you to get at it, get inside your heart and mind, and clean it out! Sometimes the things we let ourselves believe and do can be so poisonous to us. There is no reason why we should be letting ourselves live in that poison and destroy our quality of life.

I know I have a lot of time that needs to be spent in the Personal Mode of spring cleaning this season and I hope that you will spend some time there as well. Personally, I know I can’t wait to let go of some of my poison and get it out of my life! It’s not going to be easy, but it will definitely be worth it.

Happy Spring everyone!


@ROSIEHANKE

POST BY ROSIE HANKE

DIY Glitter Shoes!

I once heard a quote “Give a girl the right pair of shoes and she can conquer the world.” Initially, I thought to myself “Wow those must be some pair of shoes!?” However, I started to think a little deeper into it.  The right pair of shoes makes us feel sexy, confident, and even fancy.  It’s not necessarily the shoes, but the feelings associated with the shoes.  So what better way to boost your confidence and self love than by a kick butt pair of shoes?! Here is a formula (that you can try on any shoes) that will allow you to conquer the world, demand respect, and remind yourself of the strong individual you are!

Supplies:

Modge Podge glasse finish

Glitter- beware black glitter is harder to work with!!

A pair of shoes

Foam paintbrush

Water Proof Shoe protector

1. Mix the glitter and the modge podge in a bowl! Make sure you use more glitter than modge podge!

2. Start painting the mixture on the shoes with the foam paintbrush.  (If there are laces involved, make sure you take them out first) Wait 20 minutes before applying the next coat.

3. For the second coat, I poured some of the glitter directly on the shoes and packed it into the gaps with the left over glitter glue from before.  Do you best to make the coat even and smooth! Do as many coats as you feel necessary!

4. Once the shoes are dry, do a coat of just the modge podge (no glitter) and after they dry then make sure you spray them with water proofer to seal the modge podge and glitter into the shoes!

5. WEAR WEAR WEAR- Conquer the world in your new kicks! AND don’t forget- You are So Worth Loving <3

@MaggieTalbert

Photos- weheartit.com && my own pictures!