How do you define yourself?
I ask myself this question a lot! Too often, I let the opinions of other people have a large influence on what I think about myself, more than I should.
“You’ve put on weight”
“Do you eat?”
“You have the chest of a 12 year old boy”
“You are so dumb”
“I can’t believe you failed that, it was so easy”
“I can’t believe you did better than me on that test”
“You have a big nose”
“You sound dumb when you say that”
…. And this only covers the bear minimum. Time and time again, I let these things get under my skin and eat at my self-view. I believe these things far too easily, probably because these are insecurities I see within myself. How can I ever be the best version of me when I cannot see past everyone else’s version of me? I can’t. So clearly there is only one option- stop believing the lies. You don’t have to let what they say dictate what you think of yourself. You don’t have to let your doubt and insecurities run your life. You have that power to not believe and you cannot forget that the most important opinion of you is what you think of yourself. Do what makes you happy, live with no regrets, don’t let other people dictate your happiness, don’t let your insecurities hold you back, and always remember you are worth loving no matter what anyone says. If you can love yourself, then you can love others, and spread the message.
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The Spring cleaning season must be upon us! I’m not sure what struck me but I have been working down in the basement a lot lately cleaning and trying to figure out what exactly we all have. Would you believe there are still pieces of my childhood down there? Toys even! While some of the things are worth keeping, the majority of it needs to go. Most of the things down there never see the light of day anymore. They have served their purpose and are only cluttering up the basement.
Spring cleaning is great for our homes but it can also refresh our ways of thinking and how we see and treat ourselves. Have you ever taken inventory on yourself and the pieces of your life that do not need to be there? Now’s the perfect time if you haven’t! Bring on the Spring Cleaning: Personal Mode.
Maybe you have things in your life that have yet to see the light of day- the things that eat away at you every single day inside but are never able to make it past your mouth. The secrets. Maybe there are certain attitudes you carry around that could use a little (or a lot of) tweaking. Maybe feelings such as unworthiness, shame, and worthlessness are constantly on your mind. Bad habits? Unhealthy relationships? Insecurities? This list could go on and on… whether it’s filled with serious things that need to change or more simple things to work on over time. Whatever it is, I would encourage you to get at it, get inside your heart and mind, and clean it out! Sometimes the things we let ourselves believe and do can be so poisonous to us. There is no reason why we should be letting ourselves live in that poison and destroy our quality of life.
I know I have a lot of time that needs to be spent in the Personal Mode of spring cleaning this season and I hope that you will spend some time there as well. Personally, I know I can’t wait to let go of some of my poison and get it out of my life! It’s not going to be easy, but it will definitely be worth it.
Happy Spring everyone!
POST BY ROSIE HANKE
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We picked up our shirts today- official SWL shirts available for sale soon! Who is excited?