So Worth Loving

What are you freeing yourself from today? 
Check out our instagram and let us know!! If you do, you could win two… count them.. TWO of these motivating Free to Be posters! Just repost this picture on Instagram including: 
1. What you’re freeing yourself from!
2. Use the hashtag #freetobe
3. Leave your email in the comments below the picture! Winner will be chosen at random + emailed! Yay emails! 
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What are you freeing yourself from today? 

Check out our instagram and let us know!! If you do, you could win two… count them.. TWO of these motivating Free to Be posters! Just repost this picture on Instagram including: 

1. What you’re freeing yourself from!

2. Use the hashtag #freetobe

3. Leave your email in the comments below the picture! Winner will be chosen at random + emailed! Yay emails! 

(www.tour.soworthloving.com)

EXCITING NEWS!

  

note from the founder:
[As you know our wonderful Micaela stepped down due to her roles in her new job. We were so sad to see her step down but so proud and excited for her and her future!! We will always be her cheerleaders!

After some time to think through things and see what was going to unfold for us, I am excited to introduce to you our newest family member + blog editor Karlye Hayes!]

note from our new blog editor:
Hello beautiful family! I’m Karlye. I am more than stoked about this new adventure with you guys!

So, I was told to give y’all a bit of a back story about my life. I have the physical capability of talking for hours so I’m just going to narrow down my stories to one specifically about So Worth Loving, and how it came into my life at the perfect time.

When I discovered So Worth Loving, I was going through a hardcore emotional healing process. While truly facing all of my struggles and overcoming them, hating myself was the hardest struggle to face.

I was very unhappy with my appearance and my distaste for myself grew into distaste for eating. Unfortunately my story isn’t very unique, but also that is more than fortunate! SWL helped me realize that.

It’s all about not only loving yourself, but also seeing that we are never alone. Knowing that we are not alone can help us relate to each other and produce true growth within ourselves and every path we walk through.

Since So Worth Loving came into my life, I bought more stuff than I probably should and went to any event I could go to. When I went to the Pre-Tour Party in Atlanta, that was when I knew that I wanted to do more than just watch other people make a difference with this amazing message. I wanted more than anything to be a part of this movement. It started with buying the merchandise, and now I’m talking to you via the SWL blog! Of course I still deal with this struggle, but each day, I am loving myself more and more.

Healing is a process, and I am so ecstatic to go through this process with all of you! Through this new journey we are taking, if you ever have questions about anything, don’t hesitate to ask! Just like talking to my grandmamma, we love talking to our family! Anyway, love you guys and can’t wait for the next post to bring us together again!!

You’re amazing,

Karlye


note from our team:
We wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t for you. Our blog is so important. It’s why we exist; to bring community and empower others to know that they are NOT alone. You don’t have to be a pro at words and grammar to share your story. That is very important to us that you know that and don’t let it ever stop you from sharing yours with our community. You bring light to someone else tunnel. Can’t say it better. Interested in sharing your story? Email Karlye at : Submissions@SoWorthLoving.com

Dark Moments



"It’s still snowing? Ok, I’m gonna get the shoveling started because it looks like it’s ending soon." I said. Mar just looked at me and gave me a small smile that said "Thank you." 

It’s amazing to me how even the faintest light reflects off of snow, making it very easy to see at night. I grabbed the shovel and began slowly and methodically cleaning the first part of the driveway, closest to the garage. As I fell into rhythm, the thoughts of the past few days slipped into the back of my mind for the first time. 

The past two weeks have been hard. I guess losing someone you love dearly is not supposed to be easy. It was an unexpected. An unexpected moment in life. When these moments have happened in my life, I typically react in one of two ways. Either, I find myself paralyzed, unable to act, or I begin to fill my minutes with activity, running full steam until I’m out of breath. Here in the evening, in the rhythm of my shoveling, I did something different. I slowed down and I took a breath.

As I paused, I sat down on the newly fallen snow, breathing in and out. It was then the person I had lost came to me and was a whisper in the falling snow. Four simple words, “Take care of her.” For the first time in days, I began to cry. Really cry. I held it together for my children and wife in hope of providing strength where they had none. Now it was my turn.

What I realized as I lay there in the snow was that in these unexpected moments, in these darkest of days I am never alone. The whisper proved that to me. As I let this sink in, I began to think about how many of our friends came and supported us, and how many friends reached out to us just to let us know that they are here if we need them. 

This life brings so much joy and so much pain. If you find yourself in an unexpected moment, please know that you are not alone. WE are always here to share in your pain and provide strength and encouragement in the quiet moments.


Post by Andy Ryan

Eating Disorder and Self Love

"I’m a crusader for being yourself and loving yourself, but I’ve found it hard to practice. I’ll be unavailable for the next 30 days, seeking treatment for my eating disorder… to learn to love myself again, exactly as I am." -Ke$ha

We admire and support your decision Ke$ha. You are beautiful and learning to appreciate yourself is honorable. Keep going, keep fighting, and know you are worthy of love. #swlfamily

Love, Eryn

A Love Made of Lies

Editor’s note: Today’s post was submitted anonymously by a strong and courageous member of our SWL community. Please read this more than once and let it sink in. And remember that abusive love is not love; it is dominance and control. You are never powerless.

“You aren’t pretty enough to be with anyone else.”

“If you left me, no one else would want you.”

“Have you ever thought about getting a boob job when you are older? Maybe I’ll buy you one.”

“If you don’t do this I won’t love you anymore.”

“I deserve to get angry when I have to deal with you being stupid every day.”

“You’re just an idiot sometimes.”

“Can we see other people, I’m not getting enough action from you.”

These were all exact words I heard from my then boyfriend when I was only 14. By the time I was 16, I had experienced a type of relationship with issues that you think only adults encounter. By the time I was 17, I finally found So Worth Loving and they changed everything I had begun to truly believe about myself.

For two years, I thought love was something that was supposed to hurt. For two years, I thought that love was him getting angry and punching the wall and throwing things at my face. For two years, I wasn’t living a life that a 14 and 15 year old should. For two years, I lied to my family about where I was going at night. For two years, I snuck out to see him only to get yelled at and hit. For two years, I felt trapped. I thought I was loved…

…until I got the butt dialed phone call of him sleeping with someone else.

The phone dropped, along with my heart onto the floor. I thought I was going to burst. I screamed, I cried. I blamed myself. I was angry with myself.

I had felt so much pressure to sleep with this guy throughout the two years of us dating. I was so against giving in because when I was only 12, I was cornered in the locker room and raped by a 16 year old guy. I didn’t want to feel that way ever again, so I tried to stand my ground. But he won. I gave in I have never told anyone this story, sitting here writing it on my computer is the first time I have ever let it escape the back of my mind. I only slept with him once. And it was the night before that single accidental phone call changed everything.

Now, you may be reading this and wondering why the heck someone would stay with someone who treats them that way. But I also know that some of your reading have felt this way before, or are still feeling this way. Trapped. I was only 14. Think back to when you were 14, we were all trying to find ourselves and be accepted. That’s all I wanted: to be accepted.

After getting the butt-dial phone call and hearing way more then I needed to from a bedroom, I demanded answers. I got them: he had been sleeping with seven different girls through the two years of dating. Do you know who he blamed it on? Me. I was to blame because I wouldn’t give it up to him for a long time. I believed this. I believed that I was to blame. I was the reason for my pain. I was the reason I would never be worth more. I was the reason I felt like I was going to be broken forever.

Devastated and thinking no one would ever love me, because of words he had inked into my brain, I tried to forget everything that had happened to me, while still believing that my past would always define me. Those two men would always define me and my worth, or lack of worth. I would still receive phone calls with threats for if I ever told this story. I fell into a heavy drinking problem to try and hide the fact that I was in pain all of the time. I wasn’t just cheated on. I was abused. Physically and verbally.

It wasn’t until I came across SWL on Twitter that I started to see through the lies and find hope.

Since then, SWL has changed my mindset about how I live my life, how I view myself, and I have since freed myself from all of the negativity that was embedded in my brain. The quotes I opened with were lies, and nothing that anyone should fall into believing. So now I replace the lies I opened with, with the truth:

“I am beautiful, and deserve someone to treat me well.”

“I have the choice to leave a relationship I am not happy in.”

“I don’t need a boob job.”

“Someone’s love for me should not be defined by chore or action.”

“I don’t deserve to be yelled at and hit.”

“I am smart. He’s the idiot.”

“I don’t need to have sex with someone for them to love me.”

It’s been four years since I shut the door on a relationship that I am just now telling the truth about. No matter what our past holds, what mistakes we have made, we are So Worth Loving. I am So Worth Loving.

"you gotta look for the good in the bad, the happy in your sad, the gain in your pain, and what makes you grateful not hateful." High-res

"you gotta look for the good in the bad, the happy in your sad, the gain in your pain, and what makes you grateful not hateful."