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Dark Moments



"It’s still snowing? Ok, I’m gonna get the shoveling started because it looks like it’s ending soon." I said. Mar just looked at me and gave me a small smile that said "Thank you." 

It’s amazing to me how even the faintest light reflects off of snow, making it very easy to see at night. I grabbed the shovel and began slowly and methodically cleaning the first part of the driveway, closest to the garage. As I fell into rhythm, the thoughts of the past few days slipped into the back of my mind for the first time. 

The past two weeks have been hard. I guess losing someone you love dearly is not supposed to be easy. It was an unexpected. An unexpected moment in life. When these moments have happened in my life, I typically react in one of two ways. Either, I find myself paralyzed, unable to act, or I begin to fill my minutes with activity, running full steam until I’m out of breath. Here in the evening, in the rhythm of my shoveling, I did something different. I slowed down and I took a breath.

As I paused, I sat down on the newly fallen snow, breathing in and out. It was then the person I had lost came to me and was a whisper in the falling snow. Four simple words, “Take care of her.” For the first time in days, I began to cry. Really cry. I held it together for my children and wife in hope of providing strength where they had none. Now it was my turn.

What I realized as I lay there in the snow was that in these unexpected moments, in these darkest of days I am never alone. The whisper proved that to me. As I let this sink in, I began to think about how many of our friends came and supported us, and how many friends reached out to us just to let us know that they are here if we need them. 

This life brings so much joy and so much pain. If you find yourself in an unexpected moment, please know that you are not alone. WE are always here to share in your pain and provide strength and encouragement in the quiet moments.


Post by Andy Ryan
I watched a really powerful film recently on grief, loss and searching for closure. It’s called Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close. Its long and intense, but incredible. Oh, and I haven’t cried in a film like that… Ever. Don’t worry, there’s no spoilers in the post!Towards the end, one of main characters shares that ‘everyone has lost someone or something’. The moment in the film was fleeting, but that line has stayed with me.We have all experienced loss. Life is unfair. Life is so very unfair. I’ve experienced injustice and loss and so have my dearest friends. The death of a dream, a friend, a parent, an opportunity. The pain of rejection, abuse and oppression.But… and it’s a big but! We are over-comers. There’s a high chance you don’t think you are, but whether you admit it or not, you are.I’ve made some big and hard decisions in my life, as much as the next person. But I can’t tell you how many people tell me ‘you were so brave, I could never do that’. It makes me sad, and everytime I think ‘yes you could! Believe in yourself!’Maybe you couldn’t have done what I did, but that wasn’t for you to do. That was my life and it was the right decision at the time, for me. You just need to do what’s right for you. You have it inside of you to overcome the challenge before you. I didn’t think I could either, but I did and I am so proud.I don’t know who you are or what you’re facing, but we’re all facing something. You need to remember that you are an over-comer, and you are brave! You can do whatever it is you need to do; finish your exams or an assignment, take a risk in business, break away from the relationship that’s pulling you down. Or maybe it’s just getting out of bed. You can do it. It’s the most satisfying thing in the world looking back and going ‘that was so hard, but I survived it and I’m better from it.’  Today, say no to the thoughts bringing you down and remind yourself ‘I am an overcomer’. Without knowing you personally, I know one thing for sure: you are so much stronger that you think. Give yourself a chance to prove it. 

POST BY MICAELA! High-res

I watched a really powerful film recently on grief, loss and searching for closure. It’s called Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close. Its long and intense, but incredible. Oh, and I haven’t cried in a film like that… Ever. Don’t worry, there’s no spoilers in the post!

Towards the end, one of main characters shares that ‘everyone has lost someone or something’. The moment in the film was fleeting, but that line has stayed with me.

We have all experienced loss. Life is unfair. Life is so very unfair. I’ve experienced injustice and loss and so have my dearest friends. The death of a dream, a friend, a parent, an opportunity. The pain of rejection, abuse and oppression.

But… and it’s a big but! We are over-comers. There’s a high chance you don’t think you are, but whether you admit it or not, you are.

I’ve made some big and hard decisions in my life, as much as the next person. But I can’t tell you how many people tell me ‘you were so brave, I could never do that’. It makes me sad, and everytime I think ‘yes you could! Believe in yourself!’

Maybe you couldn’t have done what I did, but that wasn’t for you to do. That was my life and it was the right decision at the time, for me. You just need to do what’s right for you. You have it inside of you to overcome the challenge before you. I didn’t think I could either, but I did and I am so proud.

I don’t know who you are or what you’re facing, but we’re all facing something. You need to remember that you are an over-comer, and you are brave! You can do whatever it is you need to do; finish your exams or an assignment, take a risk in business, break away from the relationship that’s pulling you down. Or maybe it’s just getting out of bed. You can do it. 

It’s the most satisfying thing in the world looking back and going ‘that was so hard, but I survived it and I’m better from it.’  Today, say no to the thoughts bringing you down and remind yourself ‘I am an overcomer’. Without knowing you personally, I know one thing for sure: you are so much stronger that you think. Give yourself a chance to prove it. 


POST BY MICAELA!