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So Worth Loving

We have had such an amazing week while partnering with Not For Sale, but the movement can still keep going!
Our new shirts, “We are not for sale. We are so worth loving,” are still for sale online, and 10 percent of the proceeds still goes to NFS. 
Also, there are more direct ways to get involved with NFS by just checking out their site! 
By loving yourself, you can easily love others. Lets continue to show love to those that, in our opinion, need it more than ever right now.
Human-trafficking is real, and so is love. High-res

We have had such an amazing week while partnering with Not For Sale, but the movement can still keep going!

Our new shirts, “We are not for sale. We are so worth loving,” are still for sale online, and 10 percent of the proceeds still goes to NFS. 

Also, there are more direct ways to get involved with NFS by just checking out their site

By loving yourself, you can easily love others. Lets continue to show love to those that, in our opinion, need it more than ever right now.

Human-trafficking is real, and so is love.

A Splendid Adventure

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Steve Maraboli wrecked me when he wrote, "She is delightfully chaotic; a beautiful mess. Loving her is a splendid adventure."
I wonder if Maraboli knew the weight that resonated in his words when he wrote them. I wonder if he could have possibly imagined the countless hours a woman would clock  trying to walk that fine line between being a damsel in distress as well as her own knight in shining armor just so she could woo the man that is making her work so very hard for it. I wonder if he could’ve predicted the countless of dollars that would be spent on bold, red lipstick or hair bleach or fake tans or gym memberships just so a girl could look “too-hot-for-you” when she walked into a room. I wonder if he foresaw the tears a tired soul and wounded heart would cry at night when she could no longer keep up the “you can’t tame me” act. Maraboli’s words haunted me from the moment I saw them come across my Tumblr dashboard three years ago. How could I, the girl who would rather spend Friday nights watching Say Yes To The Dress with the women in her family, the Plain-Jane who only likes ketchup on her burgers and ham and cheese on her subway sandwiches, the loner who had been friends with the same group of outcasts for years, the girl who followed the rules— how could that girl be worth loving? I wasn’t chaotic in any sense, so that means I’m not an adventure? Was I not the perfect blend of chaotic and delightful? Of course not. Well, that was why so many people (according to myself and no one else) got bored with me; that’s why my friends scattered; that’s why I couldn’t make the boy care enough. I wasn’t a big enough adventure. My next move: change. Better myself. And to do that, I had to have a mental “I-Can’t-Be-Tamed-But-Why-Don’t-You-Try” checklist:

  • Walk in a room, straighten your back.
  • Be wearing plenty of black.
  • Pucker those red lips.
  • Don’t look a single person in the eye.
  • Wear your best smile.
  • Ask plenty of questions about other people, but don’t ever answer any about yourself. When they know everything, you’re no longer an adventure.
  • When you do talk about yourself, only feed them enough to perk their interest more.
  • Still, talk a lot, especially to strangers, but don’t dominate the conversation.
  • Don’t have the usual opinions most women have about things. When you say you’re not like other girls, MEAN IT.

Of course, the list goes on and on, and it changes for different people.
I was convinced that the more I made myself harder to figure out, the more they would love me.

I was forced to face the fact that I was molding myself into a person that would make someone else happy while all along I’d stopped being ME. I’d been too busy grasping at all the big ideas that society, a man, and my friends had implanted in my head to even begin deciding who it was I wanted to be, let alone becoming that person. In 2014, my goal became to find a safe balance between being at peace with myself and being open to positive suggestions of improvement.
One day I finally took my eyes off of the people who were making me fight for my worth long enough to actually see all the things that made me worthy… The funniest thing was, I was able to see other people who noticed those things, too.

It hurts shedding the negativity from your life. Do it anyway. It takes up too much space. People who make you feel like you aren’t enough aren’t worth it.

Ladies, stop trying so hard to stand in the wake of disaster-meets-sexy, and learn to be more than okay with the core of who you are - love yourself, and let that part of you flourish. You aren’t here for the sake of anyone else, so stop trying to measure up to something that you aren’t just so you can feel an ounce of worth — grow worth in your own heart, and then surround yourself with good gardeners.

You are so worth loving.


Thanks,
Jenna Bednarsky


"Society can paint this picture that we are only beautiful if we are sexually desirable." A few weeks ago, I went to one of my favorite 2 day concerts ever- Dave Matthews Band! However, I was appalled by the number of beautiful girls that felt the need to wear next to nothing! I understand as females that we want attention, we want people to look at us and think WOW…but there is a difference between Wow and Woah.
As a woman, (holy cow- calling myself a woman is weird) we want to be sexy and beautiful. We want to be noticed and we want to be appreciated for who we are and the way we look and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! However, to me sexy doesn’t mean we should wear as little clothing as possible and showing off all of our mystery. I know we all can relate to this feeling of the media is constantly pressuring us with their perception of beauty- which happens to be focused on showing all your secrets. To me, being sexy and beautiful is an attitude. It’s dancing around your bedroom in sweatpants, it’s challenging yourself to grow in areas that might not be your strength, and it’s rocking a killer new outfit, it’s wearing a dress to feel girly, it’s embracing my curves, it’s wearing my tight fighting jeans, a fun tank and some studs on my shoes. It is simply based on the attitude you have about yourself.
Trust me- the outfit that shows all your gems might get a double take from a cute dude, but a sexy/beautiful attitude will grab someones attention and leave a lasting impression. Besides, who wants to spend a ton of money on clothing that BARELY covers you? Anybody with me?? Above are some SEXY/BEAUTIFUL outfits that are basics you can find at almost any department store for reasonable prices! Finally, look in the mirror and tell yourself: “I am beautiful, strong, and so worth loving!” If you need to write this on your mirror and put it on a notecard to place by your door before you leave for the day.
@MaggieTalbert
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"Society can paint this picture that we are only beautiful if we are sexually desirable."

A few weeks ago, I went to one of my favorite 2 day concerts ever- Dave Matthews Band! However, I was appalled by the number of beautiful girls that felt the need to wear next to nothing! I understand as females that we want attention, we want people to look at us and think WOW…but there is a difference between Wow and Woah.

As a woman, (holy cow- calling myself a woman is weird) we want to be sexy and beautiful. We want to be noticed and we want to be appreciated for who we are and the way we look and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! However, to me sexy doesn’t mean we should wear as little clothing as possible and showing off all of our mystery. I know we all can relate to this feeling of the media is constantly pressuring us with their perception of beauty- which happens to be focused on showing all your secrets. To me, being sexy and beautiful is an attitude. It’s dancing around your bedroom in sweatpants, it’s challenging yourself to grow in areas that might not be your strength, and it’s rocking a killer new outfit, it’s wearing a dress to feel girly, it’s embracing my curves, it’s wearing my tight fighting jeans, a fun tank and some studs on my shoes. It is simply based on the attitude you have about yourself.

Trust me- the outfit that shows all your gems might get a double take from a cute dude, but a sexy/beautiful attitude will grab someones attention and leave a lasting impression. Besides, who wants to spend a ton of money on clothing that BARELY covers you? Anybody with me?? Above are some SEXY/BEAUTIFUL outfits that are basics you can find at almost any department store for reasonable prices! Finally, look in the mirror and tell yourself: “I am beautiful, strong, and so worth loving!” If you need to write this on your mirror and put it on a notecard to place by your door before you leave for the day.

@MaggieTalbert